I can't bring myself to call myself a feminist because I think it's an ugly word.
I'm all about equality, for everyone. All colours, all sexes, all religions. However - to me, feminism has gone from calling for equality for women, to wanting women to be viewed as superior. I don't feel that is right.
I have experienced feminism first hand. I have worked in male dominated fields my whole life (save for my career as a beauty advisor) and I know there are some old habits dying hard in the world. I have answered the phone in a news room and had the person on the other end of the phone ask to speak to a "news man". I've been told I can't lift things. I've been told my "presence is distracting." I've been there.
I've also got jobs because they needed more women to up some sort of affirmative action quota. Who knows if the man I beat out for the job was as qualified or more qualified than me. The point is - has that bettered me in any way? I don't think so.
To me - fighting for the right to vote, the right for abortions, the right to divorce were all great fights in the spirit of equality, not feminist superiority.
I am stoked I have to choice to go out and work for a living, and be paid well AND equal to men (well, I work at a union shop, so I make less than some of the men because they've been there longer, plain and simple). But what bothers me is when a woman decides she wants to be a stay at home Mom, she is treated like she is setting women back fifty years. Um, come on. There are studies to back up the fact that kids do better when they have a parent at home raising them. How can that be viewed as anything but wonderful?
I also feel that feminism got really mixed up in the sexual revolution and not in the best way. Access to birth control is so critical, and thank goodness we have it - but what did it lead to? It encouraged women to become "sexually empowered" which to some, meant becoming a slut. Plain and simple. Is that really a good thing?
Modern feminism tells us we can be sluts but no one is allowed to call us that. That's really the Sex and the City complex. Modern feminism tells us our happiness trumps everyone else's: our children, our spouses, our families. So it's ok to walk out on marriages, it's ok to dump your kids in daycare, especially for the sake of your own well being. It's all about you you you, lady!
We're encouraged to do it all - have a great job, stay in shape, have kids, cook, have a husband and a great sex life, read books, take vacations. And then we have the Oprah's of the world who do nothing but show us that we can't do all those things. There is an entire industry geared at making women feel bad about themselves, and the people who own that industry are modern day female icons!
Feminism at it's core has given us the right to choose what we want from our lives. Yet somehow it still tears down some of the choices we make, like staying at home to raise kids, or working part time. Politicians gear entire campaigns towards women voters, and so many women don't make it to the polls. How is that for equality?
So if you ask me if I am a feminist - no way. I don't think I'm better than any man OR woman. I think if you can figure that a sex is superior to another, than you can figure a race is better than another. You see where this is going.
The world would be a much better place if EVERYONE just shut the fuck up and got back to work. Let's quit being so damn PC about everything, could we? If everyone quit complaining about everything and forcing their ideals on people, the world would get on juuuuust fine. Trust me!
I'm just sayin!